There is an effortless way to hold others in our eyes that allows them to instantly feel seen and heard and brings out their best, and our best.
We can develop this capacity for Relational Presence (RP) by exercising it as if it were a muscle. Such practice liberates the gift of our presence and the pleasure of our company.
Since finding an effective way to develop Relational Presence through interactive video, I have been hearing from people around the world about how much they crave to be held gently in the eyes of others, and to provide such holding.
The pace of life is obviously quickening. The lure of email and electronic networking is powerful. As communications grow more impersonal, opportunity for warm human eye connection is less available. I find I need to ask for it by name.
When I say "Hold me in your eyes" or "I am holding you in my eyes, stay with me," people understand and soften. They know exactly what I mean. Even a brief interlude in this frame of reference raises the quality of life and brings out our best.
Who in your life can you can you ask for such holding? And to how many others can you provide it?
Let me know how it goes.
